Sunday 15 April 2012

Till Premarital Sex Do Us Apart


Like eating desserts before meals delays gastric emptying which causes the eater to feel fuller quicker, premarital sex can have the same subversive effect on relationship durability. The concurrence of staggering divorce rates and liberal attitudes towards prenuptial sex can attach it to endangering the soundness of consanguinity in society. Economical, technological, and cultural factors contributed to the rise of the phenomena, a rise that is more likely to increase both horizontally and vertically. With the support it receives from popular culture, premarital sex is gaining more popularity, and attempts of portraying it negatively are deemed obsolete and feebleminded by large sectors of modern societies.
From a natural take on the matter, all natural processes abide by an orderly fashion, where stages and phases of existence are sequenced harmoniously, fulfilling their purpose in a greater image. Stars, planets and all entities on Earth go through birth, a peak point of growth, and an eventual demise which connects with another new event relationally. Applying these rules of nature on the stages of coupling would give us a set of procedures that construct a contextual conception for sexual intercourse, such as the development of a mutual understanding of life and partnership which can provide a purpose for a long lasting union. Curtailing these steps and placing premature sex as a predecessor to them is invariably devastating as it widens the gap between the physical attachment and the spiritual compatibility. The absence of such a synchronousness of bodily and mental faculties can lead to the obliteration of a quintessential hallmark of the human identity. Such a demoted approach to sex challenges the longevity of relationships and threatens the coherence of society through the decimation of its primary unit, the family.
The advent of intelligent solutions to decrease the aftereffects of copulation, played a major role in bringing nonchalance to those who feared the premarital experience. The invention of the condom and other contraceptives has helped much in mitigating the undesired repercussions of intercourse. Pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are not the only hazards of sex, as maintaining virginity till marriage is also an issue of  high significance in some cultures. Artificial hymen is a recent commercial product  available in Middle Eastern markets, substituting the several decades old surgeries which provide a temporary re-acquisition of virginity.
For many, premarital sex comes as a part of social deconstructionism culture which dictates the fragmentation of relationships in order to avoid full-scale failures, an apprehension which is fostered by previous disappointments. An example of these disappointments is taking part of a dysfunctional conjugal partnership either as a partner or a member of a dysfunctional family. Suffering from chronic social hardships resulting from prolonged, impaired relationship stigmatizes this kind of union in the minds of those witnessed constant domestic dispute and the negative repercussions which follow. The dismantlement of the components of human partnership provides a practical and successful solution of avoiding what is thought of as the arbitrary burden of serious commitment. This way, premarital sex becomes a way of stretching the margin of benefits of relationships while minimizing the level of risk to the lowest point possible in the eyes of many.
Since the downfall of the Bible as a manifesto of moral values in the West, and the subsequent unfinished age of European imperialism, modernization postulated European traditions at the expense of regional traditionalism. The Euro-American political dogmas have directly and indirectly endorsed the rights of individuals of leading free lives in order to serve free market trends. A liberated competitive sex world of supply and demand would be an incentive for individuals to condone the liberalization of economy. The financial capacity of individuals can no longer match a strict ethical code that can allow sex in the context of matrimony solely. The expenses of marriage can be possessed only by individuals of an age that postdates that of possessing sexual needs by at least 15 years, a time gap can only increase the figures of those interested in premarital sexual experiences.
Although the most conservative among cultures accommodate higher divorce rates than average, premarital sex is far from being in complementary distribution with divorce in more liberal places. In moderately conservative countries such as Azerbaijan, Mexico, and Magnolia, crude divorce rates are 0.83, 0.62, and 0.35 respectively. These rates are the lowest in comparison with more either liberal or conservative countries. In the U.S, Russia, and the European Union the rates are 3.4, 4.4, and 2.0 respectively, while in ultra conservative places like the Bible Belt, Iran, and Saudi Arabia, divorce rates are about 20% higher than those of less, but still conservative regions. One explanation of this unexpected representation of divorce is that in ultra conservative places, divorce is more common because marriage is more common. The conspicuous conclusion is that even if divorce rates are high in the most conservative environments, liberal societies still have double the crude rates with a smaller number of marriages. By taking into consideration the subjective and objective influence of divorce on generations to come, the rates can only lean towards accretion.
Entertainment media majorly target the age group of  13-27, which is flanked by puberty and considering marriage on both ends. Youngsters spending most of their leisure time in exposure to pop culture, find advocacy for premarital sex through the liberal attitudes of the protagonists of such acts. Contemporary arts of commercial appeal vastly downplay religion and celibacy within the direct and subliminal messages they convey to viewers. A globalized mainstream culture charged with individualism and celebration of selfdom, bolsters the preference of remaining unattached to any form of institutionalized association. The degeneracy of the quality of education broadens the influence of entertaining materials that accentuates hedonism, and debases the choice of chastity by conservative sectors of society.
Family, the cardinal structural unit of society faces serious impedance by the rampancy of premarital sex. Advancements in contraception technology cemented the tendencies towards sex out of wedlock. For many, premarital sex is a form of escapism from negative presentiments concerning marriage. Anachronism of sexual chronology in mainstream culture leads to indifferent attitudes towards sex among youngsters. Media plays a far-reaching role in setting premarital sex as a standardized behavioral norm. The rise of  prenuptial sex accompanies staggering rates of divorce, a phenomena that has irreversible impairing effects on society.  

1 comment:

  1. good piece mate!
    "it widens the gap between the physical attachment and the spiritual compatibility" totes agree!

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